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What makes a marriage strong? Up until recently, I couldn't tell you. Flat out! After 2 years of marriage under my belt, I'm starting to see the things that strengthen a marriage. In addition, I let go of the things that don't serve my marriage. If someone asks me how my marriage is going, I can now say strong.
Let me start with this insight: The first year of your marriage may be the most vulnerable year of your marriage because it is the adjustment year. As a couple, you have to learn what works in order to keep both of you feeling strong in the marriage. There are no "hard rules." Since every couple is different, different rules will apply. However, there are some basic tenents that every marriage can beneficially incorporate.
ROADMAP TO A STRONG MARRIAGE
Spend quality time together on purpose. Go on dates. Hubby and I go on a date once or twice a month. Enjoy intentional time together. We go on an intimate picnic for two every year. We look forward to it!
Forgive quickly. Make it a point to forgive one another by saying you are sorry.
Listen intently. Practice listening by mirroring what your spouse is saying to you. My hubby and I do this very well. I will say this: If it is a heated argument, it is going to be hard to do but make yourself do it anyway. I sit on my husband's lap and talk. Warning: This may be bring on tears. It is better to say you are sorry even if you aren't feeling it because you don't want to give the devil a stronghold over your marriage. Honestly, after you say it somebody will crack a smile, which will bring on a kiss.
Pick your battles. You don't have to declare victory every time you are right. I'm not fighting him on every thing. Sometimes I keep my mouth closed. Sometimes he says I'm right when he doesn't want to say it. I can tell. Lol.
Pray together. If you want to stay together, pray together. Pray for your marriage. Go into detail. Ask God for what you want and need out of your marriage. It will strengthen your marriage. It will bring you closer together. It is thee intimate act.
Be the best servant. I serve my husband in every way. I take care of him. He takes care of me. I am submissive to him, and I like it. There is no room for pride in a marriage. Your love should be stronger than pride.
Well, that's all I got! I can only give you what I know. Those six things outlined above is what I know. I hope this roadmap strengthens your marriage.
Here I am purposely engaging in living an inspired life!
Blessings,
Rachel Mason
