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Intimacy

Updated: Jun 4, 2023

The best feeling in the world comes from intimacy with your spouse. A lot of people throw their energy into "spicing up" their love life. I found something out. A lot of times "spicing up" your love life is unnecessary. The best feeling in the world comes from making love to the person that you're "in love" with. When you make love to your spouse out of the bedroom, your love making inside of the bedroom is absolute "fire." You don't need all the "extras" when you are loving on your spouse every chance you can get. It is possible to make love to your spouse without actually physically making love.



Pay Attention to Your Relationship



1) Some couples get bored easily. If you or your partner get bored easy, honestly, you may want to get into marriage counseling. I don't see people who get bored easy as people who are truly committed in the relationship. If this is the case, speaking with a counselor may get to the root of your "bored easy" mentality. Your counselor may even lead you to a breakthrough. You need to get unblocked if you want to give your everything to someone else besides you.


2) Childhood Trauma Creeps Into Your Relationship. Be aware that your childhood traumas are very likely to enter into your adult relationships especially with your partner. If you or your spouse experienced any kind of sexual abuse in the past, watch out for trying to play out traumas now. It was a surprise to me that abuse puts demonic forces on assignment in and outside your body to try to destroy your relationship. Some people spice up their relationship with cute little things they can do with their spouse to make it interesting and fun. Other people allow things to enter into the relationship that will tear them apart. Pick your spice carefully!


3) Being too Busy. The busyness of life can keep you from being intimate with your spouse. I implore you to keep making love to your spouse outside of the bedroom by "loving on" him or her every chance you get. You can speak "sweet nothings", smooch with your spouse, compliment him or her, physically touch and caress, hug, and say "please" and "thank you" when appropriate. Show your spouse that you are still in love while you are waiting to make love. You will make love again. It will be everything you wanted and more if you "love on" your spouse during those busy times.


4) Appreciate Your Spouse. There is nothing sexier than a spouse that appreciates you and everything you do. I'll even go a step further and say when your spouse is grateful for what you have to go through and put up with, it solidifies the relationship. A spouse that is grateful, sympathetic, and empathetic is truly heaven-sent. It's not just the good times that sets the tone. It's what you struggle through together that makes the marriage stronger.


Remember, what you put out there is what you get back. Therefore, put love, grace, mercy and gratefulness out there for you and your spouse. Your marriage will survive if you have these things cementing the foundation.





Here I am purposely engaged in living an inspired life!


Blessings,


Rachel Mason