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In this day and age, people change partners often. People are so quick to call it quits and go to divorce court. The challenge of getting married is staying married. Marriage is work. You have to work at it every day. You have to choose your spouse every day even when he/ she pisses you off. Marriage is supposed to be forever. If you are seeing any of these red flags signaling divorce, it is time to be intentional about saving your marriage.
1. Your relationship lacks communication or affection.
The most important element in a marriage is communication. You should be best friends with your spouse. Best friends talk about anything and everything. You should be able to talk about the problems that arise in marriage. If you can't talk, shout it out. Don't stay silent about your problems. If you stay silent, resentment festers. My best advice is simple: Don't go to sleep angry. The devil loves to keep trouble up. Kiss it out!
2. You have no sex life.
The absence of a sex life may seem inevitable when two people have been together for so long, but sporadic sex is different than no sex. Have sex!!!! If sex has become a chore rather than a jolly good time, your relationship needs some work. If you love your spouse, you must make love to keep that intimacy that only you two share together. It will make you closer.
3. You don’t have fun together.
People do all kinds of things to have fun—go out to the bars, play sports, go hiking, etc. If your list of fun things to do no longer involves your partner, there’s a reason. A couple that can’t play together is very unlikely to stay together. Go do something fun!
4. You keep score.
A relationship is not a golf game; you don’t need to keep score with miniature pencils. You should want to do nice things for each other. There is no need to keep score. I consider it a perk to do something nice for my husband. I'm already cooking the best food that he has ever had in his life but that is part of my wifely duties. It gives me great pleasure to take him to an expensive dinner or buy him the latest thing that he has his eyes on. Needless to say, he loves doing for me too. However, no one is keeping score. Don't do that.
5. The support has dwindled.
Supporting your partner (and getting support from them) isn’t a relationship option; rather, it’s a necessity. If the support is a distant memory, your relationship may soon be one as well. Seek counseling.
Marriage is a special covenant. Please be intentional in loving your spouse.
Here I am purposely engaged in living an inspired life!
Blessings,
Rachel Mason
